Wednesday, November 07, 2007
Getting over her
Dear Pud,
I knew she was all wrong for me. She was too selfish, financially irresponsible, and we had too-different views on marriage and kids.
Still, I loved her, faults and everything.
We just broke up after 4 years. She's 33 and has been cheating with her 21 year old co-worker.
How do I get over her?
Thanks,
Tyler
31 years old
Long Beach, CA Tyler,
You still love her and want to get back together. And you know it might happen, but probably won't. You're sad because the future is unclear, and the present is unpleasant. But this lack of clarity is the very thing that's going to help you.
Would it help you get over her if I were able to prove to you, right now, that you're better off in this situation? And what if I could prove that, because of this, your future is brighter than ever?
Here ya go.
You know you're not going to be sad and lonely for the rest of your life. So then there are two possible outcomes:
- Either you'll get back together, or
- You'll meet someone else, and be happy that this happened
Either way, it will be awesome. That's the way it works. You're lucky.
Rock on,
Pud
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