Dear Pud,

I've been single and without sex for 3 years now. It seems like all my attempts at getting a girlfriend fail. My friends say I come on too strong. But I long for a partner, and when I see something I like, I go for it.

I've come to the conclusion that all the best girls are taken.

What can I do to better my chances of getting into a relationship with a pretty girl?

Kenny
24 years old
Clinton Township, Michigan

1. Coming on too strong - You're lucky. Most of the guys reading this have a problem with confidence. You do not. But understated confidence is key. When your friends say you come on too strong, what they really mean is that you're not smooth. Your mantra when approaching women should be, "don't say you're awesome -- BE awesome." Always remember that there's no bigger turn on for a woman, then when she discovers something great about you -- on her own.
   
   
2. All the best girls are taken - It's to your benefit to assume this. The way we succeed in life is by setting achievable goals. And you can get the woman of your dreams, but you need to break it down into a few smaller sub-goals.
   
   Here's your first goal: The next time you meet a desirable woman, assume she's taken and get yourself a place in line. Be her friend, or even just a pleasant acquaintance. Repeat, with every great girl you meet. Then as soon as they start to become single, set bigger goals for them. You will have success.
   

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